Help with blogging – why do I do it if I am so busy anyway?
All wet, with rain drops dropping from his hair and my hood, we were waiting for his night train back to Bratislava. We’ve just spent 3 days working on his new blog. Emails, settings, WordPress, social media channels, technical stuff, a lot of writing down and explaining.
We were there at the train station and after my initial ”no idea”, he asked me for the second time:
”Why are you doing all this for me? You don’t know me that well!”
I was standing there, looking into his super blue big eyes, and no matter how much I tried, I just could not find an answer in my head to why I was helping him out with his blog. Why do I help with blogging?
And I hated it. I hated not being able to know what was going on. I hated not being able to give him a clear answer.
Especially, I hated the feeling there was not just one answer.
He asked me why I was helping him out, wasting my time with setting up his blog while I had millions of things on my urgent to-do list before I leave to Belgrade in less than 2 weeks and properly start the Adventure and Spa project in St. Kitts and Nevis islands.
He was right. It did not make sense at all. No logic was included in my behavior. But sometimes, you just gotta listen to your heart instead of your brain, put your fears apart and also all the egoism.
And that’s exactly what I did this time.
On the way back from the train station, after I waved at him and walked back home letting the rain get the best out of me, the answers to his question all got to me all of a sudden.
I am spending days helping him out with his blog not only because of his eyes. Or his smile number one. Or the hugs he gives me when I need them, ‘cos everyone needs hugs sometimes, right?
I do it all because there was no one helping me out when I was starting with my blog. And I can still feel the pain of those days and nights when everything seemed to be against me and I just did not know how to make it work. I would have done anything if someone had helped me at that time! Because blogging is a hard job! It won’t come easy …
What comes easy, won’t always last and what will last, won’t always come easy
I am also here to give my help with blogging for another reason …
I do it all because the knowledge you don’t share with others does not mean anything.
I do it all because he has not the greatest support from his family and I still remember those days when my mum did not talk to me when I announced I was quitting my stewardess job, going traveling and making living out of my travel blog. And it sucks when your loved ones think you go crazy. It sucks to see others thinking that having the guts to change your life from scratch is not scary enough that they have to add no support to it. Right, you have to sacrifice things to travel.
And then …
I do it all because I feel he just deserves my time.
I do it all because he has the same passion and the same dreams. When we first met and spent hours chatting about everything, 90% of all the topics were about traveling. I was observing him when talking about the places he wants to visit and it just clicked in my head. It felt as if I was listening to myself!
And then, when I saw his happy innocent baby face when talking about some of the trips this year, or when I watched him playing with my Nikon, I just knew I was doing the right thing and it was not just a waste of my time.
And most of all, I do it all for him because I want his dreams to come true. His biggest traveling dreams.
Because I manage to make my dreams come true. I am living my dreams! And if I can help another person to do the most important thing in life, I will not think about the reason why I need to do it. I will not think about ”wasting” my time but about ”investing” my time.
I do it all because the biggest happiness in life is to make someone else happy.
And that’s also one of the main reasons of helping out with blogging. I want to make others happy. I learned that blogging is like life. Sharing the beauty of the world, sharing the experience, sharing the knowledge, sharing the happiness and letting others to fulfill their dreams? With all this, my life is complete …
Have you ever helped someone else to achieve his dreams? How did it feel? Did you need any exact reason to do so? Do you think I am just wasting my time when I try to help with blogging or you agree with me on investing into a good thing?
NZ Muse
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Honestly, helping somebody out is one of the best feelings in the world.
Crazy Sexy Fun Traveler
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I have to agree with you. Such a simple thing can make your day ;)
Crazy Sexy Fun Traveler
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Comment@ Ellen Keith:
Thanks, Ellen. I still remember clearly my early bad blogging days :D
Ellen Keith
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When you’re near the top, it’s so easy to forget about the struggle you went through to get there. Props to you for helping someone else get a step up!
Crazy sexy fun traveler
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Comment@ TammyOnTheMove:
I know Tammy, feel your pain. We are all busy, that’s true, but any help is always better than none :)
TammyOnTheMove
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I think more experienced bloggers should help out the newbies. When I started out I was lucky to have a few people giving me a few tips, but others didn’t even acknowledge my email, which I found a bit upsetting. So good on you for helping out!
Jozef
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Pekne.
Crazy Sexy Fun Traveler
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Comment@ Jeff @ Go Travelzing:
So nice of you, Jeff, to help out with technical stuff too :)
Jeff @ Go Travelzing
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It is nice that you can help him out. Everybody needs help at some time or another. I am pretty good with the technical stuff but when I need help I have a friend that is an expert and he always willing to help.
I was recently able to help a fellow blogger with some technical stuff and it was nice to know that I was able to set them on the right path before it became too difficult to make the changes that were needed.
Crazy sexy fun traveler
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Comment@ The Guy:
That’s exactly what I think :)
The Guy
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I think you summed it up very well Alex. When you start out in blogging it is tough, it is still tough when you’ve done it for a while. Whilst I’ve been blogging for less than 6 months I’ve found fabulous support and encouragement from far more experienced bloggers. They know the problems and issues and want to help so we don’t suffer like they did.
Who knows, maybe in the future this friend of yours can return the favour with something he is more knowledgeable about or skilful at.